Rayne

Rayne Millaray is a wild, 30-something, sex enthusiast who's been "just one of the guys" for as long a she can remember. She's been having sex since 1996, blogging about her sex life since 2005, advocating for a sex-positive society since 2008 and working in the adult industry since 2010. Her writing is published on various blogs around the web, and she currently edits SexIs Magazine, which focuses on sexuality, sex and relationships. Rayne is, without a doubt, the girl your mother warned you about. And she loves it. Any questions for her can be sent to her at: raynemillaray@gmail.com

Dear Everyone, Stop Stressing Out About Marriage

Awhile back, a friend of mine (let's call her "N" for "naive") was having trouble finding a worthy boyfriend. Part of the problem was that she was very young, and consistently went after the new, shiny fella who walked into her scene, diving headlong into head-over-heels love before taking the time to get to know him ...

How To Break Out Of A Sexual Slump

M and I have been in a bit of a slump. Instead of spending our free time hiking, biking, and having sex, we've been watching television and playing video games.

Is It Cool To Ask How Much Money My Date Makes?

After reading my article about e-dating, and the part about listing your job, a friend of mine emailed me to ask about one of the questions that is common on dating sites. It's a question that frustrates me to no end, but almost every dating site (even the ones geared toward kinky folks) gives you the option of answering it...

Five Rules To Help You Not Suck At Online Dating

The other day, M was iming a buddy, and he turns to me and says, “So, R's on Match.com.” “Wait...what?” I asked, incredulity tinging my voice. “Yeah. He's frustrated with his single status, and can't find a date in his wood shed, so he's signing up for a Match...

Australian Comedians Use Dirty Jokes To Teach About Sexual Health

Sexual health is something no one ever wants to talk about. You can't blame them, really. Who wants to think about all the things that can happen to a person just because they have sex? Unfortunately, sexual health is a subject that really needs our attention...

Billie Joe Armstrong Compares Psy To Herpes, Is Kind Of A Jerk

Did ya'll hear about Billy Joe Armstrong comparing PSY to herpes? I mean, of course you did. Who didn't, right? And PSY actually THANKED him. No, really. I'm sitting here like, “Way to use your powers of persuasion and Universe-given talent for the good of mankind...

How To Make Friends And Not Alienate People – How Not To Be A Tool At Rock Shows

So, M and I were at the Opeth concert last month. Of course we were. Awesome musicians like Katatonia, Steven Wilson (whose bassist is WAY too cool for school), and Opeth? You know we were there. We're probably going to see Device, and we're totally going to Q-Ruption...

Five Golden Rules Of Sex

There are a lot of rules to sex. Some of them are tricky because they're different from person to person, like how to stimulate the g-spot. Others though...they're pretty constant. These are the five most important rules of engagement in sex...

How To Get Into Sex Toys Without Your Man Getting Paranoid

Last year, I wrote about the fear of sex toys—though I wouldn't call it fear, so much as insecurity. I didn't call it that because guys aren't insecure, dontcha know. And to be a man in today's society and admit there are things you're insecure about means you're not a man at all ...

Porn Star James Deen Goes Mainstream, Everyone Freaks Out

Did you hear the news? Porn star James Deen has taken on a mainstream role beside Lindsay Lohan in a movie calledThe Canyons. And though there’s no on screen sex in the flick, mainstream media, true to form, is having a field day. Why...

What Not To Do If Your Partner Cheats

Okay, so your partner cheated. There are no ands, ifs, or buts about it. You found the evidence. You talked to the offending party. You confronted your partner. It's real, and now you have to do something about it. But what? Really, that's up to you...

The Reality Behind 50 Shades Of Gray

Yesterday was steak and a BJ day. Normally I'm all for it. Who doesn't like BJs? But all week I've been out of commission. So I ordered M some pizza and went to bed. In my defense, despite not feeling well, I made him steak on Tuesday, and gave him a BJ on Wednesday, so it's not like he missed out completely...